Why does an average African, especially Nigerian, believe the white man’s ways of doing things are better than ours? I am talking about dressing, child upbringing, marriage rituals, living, language, morals (we have even lost that totally) and even religion?
Why do we look derogatorily at those who do things in our traditional ways? Recently I wrote about marriage. If you see a Yoruba engagement ceremony now and what it used to be, you will be marvelled. I still don’t know when cake cutting became part of traditional wedding.
Africans carry infants on their backs. Whites carry theirs like offsprings of Puma, in the front. Yet, an average African young woman, especially the educated one, today sees carrying a child on her back as being outdated and sign of being local. They prefer dangling babies like monkey kids.
The white man gave us education and technology. And these have positively transformed our lives but with their own prices as well. But let me ask this:
DOES IT MEAN THAT THERE IS NOTHING GOOD ENOUGH IN OUR CULTURE AND WAYS OF LIFE THAT THE WHITE MAN COULD HAVE PICKED THE WAY WE PICKED THEIRS AND SEE OURS AS ANATHEMAS?
I am just thinking aloud this afternoon. Reason? I see, in documentaries, how Asians (especially Indians and Pakistanis) and Southeast Asians jealously and stubbornly hold on to their cultures and ways of lives. Even their mode of dressing.
Why can’t I wear agbada or my Igbo traditional attire to attend an interview or a corporate event or to meet a client? Does it affect my brain or way of reasoning? Or what I have to offer. Why do we hardly see traditional attires in dress codes section of an invite? Even a wedding ceremony.
Why are we running away from who Providence created us to be? Why?